Accept what is

I always appreciate receiving your newsletter. I picture you enjoying your family wife and daughters and enjoy when you add photos of them. Big hug and blessings. Too funny. Right message. Right time.

I appreciate you! It was so interesting to see this message this morning. I was actually thinking about acceptance last night. I have been frustrated with the actions of some of my friends lately as they are very difficult to make plans with. I started to take it personally and get a little upset.

Then last night I thought, I am just going to accept them as they are and know that they are just busy and this is not a reflection on me. It made me feel a lot better once I accepted it.

Your message today made that even clearer. Thanks for your help! Mike— Great message and very timely. I especially like that you share your own resistance to acceptance and the reasoning behind it. This is something I need to learn and now I can bring it into conscious effort. Your girls are darling. Second, acceptance allows you to recognize and face the actual problem. This can allow for problem-solving. Denying reality prevents you from problem-solving and may lead to more serious consequences — in this example, further years of career dissatisfaction.

Third, accepting things as they are leads us toward a sense of peace and calm. It is normal to feel angry, sad, or disappointed when you first acknowledge that you have no control over a difficult situation. However, acceptance will help you eventually feel lighter — as if a burden has been removed.

I have to accept things as they are, and right now we cannot be together for many reasons. There may be hope down the road; maybe someday things might work out. I have chosen to accept that fully. Yes, acceptance is a choice—a hard one most definitely, but a choice nonetheless. Even though my two examples are related to love and relationships, I am percent positive that learning to accept things as they present themselves is a helpful tool in all aspects of life.

Acceptance, in my opinion, is the key to convert momentary happiness to enduring happiness. It helps you move from feeling happy to actually being happy. Acceptance is like protecting yourself with your own shield. Let me clarify that acceptance is not at all related to weakness, and is definitely not a synonym of conformity or mediocrity.

For example, I know I met this person to help him go through a very difficult moment in his life. He needed me. He needed to be heard, to be understood.

And I was there for him in those ways. I fulfilled a purpose. He refuses to accept the fact that he could be wrong. If you accept an offer or an invitation , you say yes to it:. We accepted an invitation to visit China.

To accept is also to allow someone to become a member of an organization or group :. He was accepted by three colleges. To accept is also to consider someone as now belonging to your group as an equal :.

She never felt accepted by the other girls in her sorority. The buyer may refuse to accept the goods if they do not comply with the contract.

Please accept my apology for our mistake. I accept full responsibility for the failure of the project. I've accepted an invitation to speak at the conference. The decision by insurance underwriters to accept the risk demonstrates the strength of his case.

Examples of accept. Major alterations to the text will be accepted only at the author's expense. From the Cambridge English Corpus. The loose-coupling theory is not yet generally accepted. I have accordingly suggested that such an account cannot be accepted as it stands, and needs revision. Giegerich : 17 , because the conditions for accepting the ' given ', already existing, are distinct from the conditions for creating the new. In many areas, the idea that a clear-cut boundary exists between the presence and absence of pathology is no longer accepted.

Only diagnoses made by appropriately qualified staff consultant psychiatrists or consultant paediatricians working in the field of neurodevelopmental disability were accepted as valid. Women have also had more difficulty than men in being accepted into another prestigious domain, the literary canon.

The central committee usually accepts ideas coming from a few top political leaders as absolute and unquestionable. One lear ns more about the notion of collaborative lear ning if one accepts that conflict and disag reement can also be involved. Because this is ethnographic research that uses a case study method, we accepted the first four families who met our requirements and agreed to participate.